Thanks for the heads up on the flash player. Sometimes I forget that other people don’t have the huge monitors that I have for working on video and websites. I have made the player a little smaller, but because of the type of page format that I have, with the four columns, if I make the player small enough for most monitors you won’t be able to read the type. I’ll play around with a fixed width and see what that does.

I am also frustrated with the forum set up. I have tested several other types of formats without success. We may just have to abandon that idea and just continue sharing ideas as comments.

Along with Lorraine, I also wish everyone a safe and happy holiday.

Love to all,

JoAnn

Hope everyone is having a lovely Memorial Day Weekend!

I was trying to chat on the forum page when all of a sudden, the whole thing I was writing, was deleted. I’m not sure what the difference is from this page, but it seems a lot more complicated and my sentences would go outside the box.

The other tech issue I’m having is that Barbara’s interview which is fantastic, BTW, covers up the box of “To leave a comment” as it’s right in the middle of the page.

For Tina, I am so sorry to hear that you contracted an STD— and that your partner says that it has nothing to do with him??? What???????? How the hell did you get it then??? from a toilet seat??? The absurdity of their comments are beyond laughable with what they will say to deny and minimize their unconscionable, and devastating acts.

Lynn, I also have a son with high functioning autism/asperger’s. Fun, isn’t it? (that was a sarcastic remark, in case you didn’t realize). Of course, he’s 15– ’nuff said!

But, in addition to many other factors, it is also a source of isolation, which we all feel, especially around holiday times.

I just want to add something that I’ve said before… For those of you who imagine that their sex addict partners are having such a rip roaring time with their prostitutes, other lovers etc.

Not so. Nope. Not the fun you imagine— at all!!!

I was a first-hand witness. The sex addict is not really enjoying himself. My lover was always anxious, tense, worried, and MASSIVELY insecure. Sex is simply a “release”, that is not the same as “fun” or even pleasurable. There is no real feeling behind it. So when they say that it didn’t mean anything, that much is true, however, its still a BS excuse for their heinous behavior.

However, do not for one minute think that they are having this fabulous rip-roaring, hot fantastic time that has somehow eluded you.

They aren’t.

They are merely attempting to stay afloat— and eventually, they will be forced to succumb to the abyss of shit they are trying not to get swallowed up by. Maybe, not today and maybe not tomorrow, but soon… This is the one certainty, if they do not get help.

They will bring you down with them, if you choose to stay with them as they are. This is also certain.

This is the tough thing. For the sex addict needs to UNDERSTAND that he has a huge problem and be willing to have the necessary boundaries placed on him–and ongoing therapy and support. Until you hear that they will take whatever steps are necessary to be well and healthy, there is no hope.

For them to even have the possibility to change, you will have to change. Not for them, but for yourself. However, through your changing, they will be forced to, one way or the other.

So for those of you who are alone right now. Congratulate yourselves! Throw your own party. And celebrate the fact that you are at least on the way to a better, healthier more beautiful life where anything you can imagine is now possible.

Here’s to a beautiful, warm, relaxing and wonderful summer, for all!

xo,

Lorraine

I am looking forward to part 2.

Anyway, I know they would benefit from some support. Thanks.