I bet you’ve never read a news story about a celebrity confessing to their infidelities out of the blue. Most celebrity cheaters just don’t seem to have a conscience that causes them to ‘come clean’ in an effort to fix their relationship. No guilt. No remorse. Just a lot of denial and tears when they get caught. They don’t feel bad that they cheated. They feel bad that they got caught–so they claim that they are Sex Addicts in an effort to gain sympathy.
So, what about the real Sex Addicts–the royalty of cheaters? My husband has never confessed to anything that I haven’t found out. I have an uneasiness about that. I have told him many times that if he would just come to me and say, ‘I forgot to tell you this.’ or ‘I lied about this because I was too embarrassed to tell the truth’ it would make me feel a whole lot better about trusting him. But, it hasn’t happened yet.
So, I guess what it boils down to is that if you don’t know the right questions to ask you won’t get answers.
Did the Sex Addict you are involved with come clean on their own or did you find out? Have they revealed anything about their addiction without you dragging it out of them?
Is it just part of those personality flaws that Sex Addicts have, all bundled up with their shame and low self esteem that prevents them from admitting their mistakes? Is this something that can be fixed?
Today is just one of those days filled with doubts.
Modest doubt is called the beacon of the wise. ~ William Shakespeare