?I believe my husband may be a sex addict, but I may never know for sure. He refuses to talk to a counselor, or anyone for that matter. He completely isolates himself from other human beings...
For 15 years he has been struggling with this sex addiction. It started in college, when as a shy and immature boy he responded to an ad for a call girl that he found in the newspaper.
Note from JoAnn: I have searched through my archives for stories that I have not posted. Some of these, such as this one, were sent last year or the year before. With Sex Addiction, unfortunately, [...]
Dear JoAnn, I'm not married nor going out with a s*x addict. But I am attracted to someone who I believe is a Sex Addict. He's a 2-year old work contact who in recent months [...]
It was a little cathartic writing this. Thank you. We met in 1991. At first all we did was talk. I was just out of a relationship that had ended badly and I wasn’t looking for anything but friendship. Over the course of six months we talked about everything, from politics to our beliefs about relationships. That ended and something else began when he asked me out on a date. I’m short and average looking. He’s tall and very attractive. I couldn’t believe he wanted to date me. We wound up moving in together. A few years later we moved to another state for his job. And then we moved again for his job. […]
Thank you so much for your website. I'm only a few weeks into finding out the truth about my husband's Sex Addiction, so I'm still in the shock phase. I met J a little over [...]
I’m so glad to have found this website. My story is about how my husband has successfully managed his recovery from Sex Addiction, but the deep wounds that his addiction caused still remain. I have been married 8 years. Four years ago, my husband admitted to sleeping with prostitutes and strippers, as well as an enormous porn and sex chat addiction, during the first four years of our marriage, including during both of my pregnancies.
To JoAnn, It's so hard to not sob as I type this. I'm 24, married to a 34 year old sex addict. I don't even know where to start.I began getting irritated at his obvious [...]
JoAnn, I have attached my story. I was divorced June 27, 2011 because my ex filed for it. I was married for 12 years to a man who had been very abusive towards me. When I first came into his life I didn’t know that he was sexually deviant. When I was pregnant with our daughter I found an old phone bill that had 900 numbers on it in the amount of $2,400.00. I then found several pieces of paper with mail box numbers on it, giving the person’s sex preference, height, weight, & age. It would list their race and BF which stood for Black Female or Bi Female. […]
I recently discovered that my husband of 22 years is a sex addict. It started with his "out of the blue" request for a divorce in Feb. of this year (unbenownst to me, he was in the middle of an acting out binge at the time).
It began with him closing down internet browsers and looking suspicious when I walked into the room, and I eventually found charges on our account for Adult Friend Finder. He would lie about his internet activity, blaming the charges on a “favor” he was doing for a buddy who didn’t have access to a credit card (really?), and the porn account was in said friends name (yeah right).
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So, I have spent the last few days reading over the most recent comments and I will summarize some of my thoughts here. Please forgive me if I miss something, but I'll try to make my thoughts as general as possible in order to cover most topics.
My husband, whom I just found out is a Sex Addict, deployed to Afghanistan in the middle of all of the chaos so I am alone and will be until Sept of 2011.....and just when I thought things couldn't get any worse they did
I was busy all weekend working hard to finish my new eBook for partners of Sex Addicts titled Understanding Sex Addiction: Everything You Never Wanted To Know.
Every woman who has gone through the pain and turmoil of discovering that their partner is a Sex Addict seeks answers to the same questions.
The Oprah Winfrey Network (OWN), which will take over the Discovery Health Channel in January, wants couples who would be willing to go public (like on TV--with no anonymity, blocked out faces or distorted voices ) and share their stories of infidelity. Glamour Magazine is planning an article on what it is like to be married to a Sex Addict. They require that the spouse be between the ages of 25 and 35 (that leaves me out) and would require photos of you (not your spouse).
I have known far too many women who were not only devastated by the discovery of their spouse or partner's Sexual Addiction, but they also had to face the horrible reality of finding out that their financial situation was in ruins.
Part four of a four part series of interviews with Barbara Steffens, author of Your Sexually Addicted Spouse, How Partners Can Cope And Heal