I know some of you have had trouble using the forum, so I decided to place my forum topic here so that everyone could join in the discussion. You can either comment here, or join the forum and comment there. So, here it is:
One of the most difficult aspects of Sex Addiction that we spouses and partners have to deal with is How do I ever learn to trust him again?
Maybe a better question is–should we ever trust them again? I think that in order to go forward in rebuilding a relationship with a Sex Addict, we have to swallow a strong dose of reality and face the fact that no matter how far along in their recovery they are, Sex Addicts will always be Sex Addicts.
We may not like it, and those of you who say you don’t want to live like that should examine other options, because living with a Sex Addict requires both a mindset and a lifestyle change. In my own relationship Larry has worked diligently for years to rebuild trust within our marriage, and I do feel quite comfortable. BUT–I will never forget the fact that he is a Sex Addict and, just as he must be ever vigilant to avoid temptation and triggers, I must also be watchful for any signs of regression and deception.
I have outlined quite clearly in my posts how Larry and I have managed to work on our trust issues. I would like to hear some of your ideas on how each of you are managing the trust issue in your relationship.
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Do you have an outline or guidlines for Boundary Agreement. I need help with this.
Hi SoulInTheSun, and welcome to the site.
I hope you will find support, comfort and friendship here.
The Boundaries eBook, which you can get by clicking the menu tab above for EBooks, has both Personal and Relationship Boundaries worksheets and a Relationship Contract as well as a lot of information that helps sort out the difficult issues of boundaries. It’s a complex subject that I could not address thoroughly in my book, so I put together an eBook specifically addressing the issues.
I think that will find the answers you need there.
If there is anything I can help you with please, don’t hesitate to ask either here, in the comment section, or privately through the Contact Page.
My best to you,
JoAnn