“are you available?”, Words We Never Want To See on Husband’s Phone
I received this story yesterday from a woman who desperately needs support and advice. I am hoping some of you will chime in with responses.
A Letter to the Editor About Ross Rosenburg
I received the following e-mail from a concerned partner. I was appalled as I watched the video and listened to him make an absurd excuse
Can He Change?
Another story of a sex addict husband using prostitutes and a wife who wonders if he can change. Hi, I feel at a loss right
Has Anyone Else Gone Through a Similar Thing? He is a Porn Addict
I received this e-mail from a woman who is involved with a porn addict. She wonders if anyone else has had a similar experience. Please
Does A Sex Addict Ever Stop?
Does any sex addict ever stop? Is it possible. Can they? Will they. Here is a story from one of our readers who wants to
Sex Addict Husband Secretly Video Tapes Me
Here is a story from a partner whose sex addict husband has secretly video taped her in the shower and while having sex without her
A New Blog Post On The Sisterhood For Partners of Sex Addicts
Think back when you first got married (maybe before kids and mortgages). If someone had asked you the question “what would you do if he cheated on you?”, I bet that 99.9% of us would have answered without hesitation “I’d kill him then leave him”. And we would have answered that way because we never believed for one second that he would actually cheat! We did not marry men that we thought were cheaters.
One Woman’s Story of Sex Addiction Partner Trauma
I received this e-mail today from Stephanie. Here is her story of the Partner Trauma and stress that she is suffering due to her boyfriend’s sex addiction. I hope that writing
My Wife is a Sex Addict
My name is David and I have been with my wife for 33 yrs we have 3 children 27, 21 & 15. Last year I found out that my wife had many men’s names in her phone
Another Example of Sex Addiction Therapy Induced Trauma To Partners
I received this heartbreaking story in my e-mail today. It is the classic example of how Partners are scammed and abused not only by their
My Sex Addict Husband Is Abusing Our Daughter
Dear JoAnn, Dear JoAnn, Thank you for being so vulnerable and for creating this site. I am actively pursuing healing for myself and struggling with
Josie’s Story Of Her Husband’s Porn Addiction
Josie sent me her story of her husband’s porn addiction. She feels guilty even considering leaving him
Britta’s Story; A New Baby and A Sex Addict Boyfriend
story about a young woman who has a Sex Addict boyfriend. Her trauma and confusion is so heartbreaking, especially with a new baby in the mix.
Abuse is Abuse is Abuse
The news coverage of Ray Rice brutally beating his fiancee unconscious has brought back a flood of memories for me. I was a teen in the
Jenn’s Story Her Sex Addict Husband Escalated From Facebook Girlfriends To Escorts
I recently received this story from a Partner of a Sex Addict. My heart just breaks every time I get another tale of betrayal, lies
D’s Story of Gay Partner Betrayal
I received this poignant story from D, a gay man who has suffered tremendous emotional trauma from the betrayal of his Sex Addict partner.
I Am Married To A Recovering Sex Addict
I have read a lot of stories that have similar elements to mine, so I will try to be brief. In May we will be
My Wife Is A Sex Addict
When we think about Partners of Sex Addicts we usually think of women. But, there are many men out there who are also dealing the Discovery that their wives have been leading a secret sexual life.
I Discovered That My Sex Addict Husband Has Been Producing Adult Pornography
A year ago I discovered my husband had been operating as a producer, photographer, and performer of an adult pornography internet business. He operated this
An Open Letter To Patrick Carnes, Stephanie Carnes, Robert Weiss, All CSAT Counselors And Sex Addiction 12 Step Advocates
Dear Patrick Carnes, Stephanie Carnes, Robert Weiss, All CSAT Counselors and all 12 Step Advocates for Sex Addiction, Please consider this letter an urgent request to
My Boyfriend Of 18 Years Is A Sex Addict
This heartbreaking story of an 18 year relationship with a Sex Addict was sent to me yesterday. The unraveling of a secret life is tantamount to 18 years of torture and abuse.
Updated: Sex Addiction A Sham and a Scam
With all the pseudo research that the Sex Addiction gurus have done; and all the hundreds of millions of dollars they are making off of Sex Addiction, a fake term for a fake diagnosis; why can’t these so called experts put their heads together and figure out this Sex Addiction thing?
Feedback On A Comment From A Sex Addict/Christian Counselor
Here is a piece I received from a reader and member of the Sisterhood expressing her thoughts on what happened last week. It is referencing a comment posted here on this site, married to a sex addict, by Jeff Hutchinson a Sex Addiction coach. His posting, attacking me caused quite a stir. Here are Diane’s thoughts about the incident. ~ JoAnn
Sex Addict Military Husband And Special Needs Children
I received this story today from a woman whose husband is a Sex Addict and she also has two special needs children. H. would like your support and advice on dealing with this double burden.
C’s Discovery Of Her Husband’s Sex Addiction
It was January 17th and I had just spoken to my husband who was out of town on a business trip. As usual I just tossed my phone on our bed after we said our goodbye’s, never bothering to actually touch the “end” button on the call.
Just Released! New eBook On Personality Disorders And Sex Addiction
necessary information for any partner who is interested in finding out exactly why these men do what they do or is facing the difficult choice of whether to stay or leave after the Discovery of Sex Addiction in her relationship.
Living With A Person With A Double Addiction
Living with a person with Double addiction… I recently discovered that my Alcoholic husband is also a Sex Addict. As if dealing with the emotional
Husband Says He Doesn’t Need Help With His Sex And Porn Addiction
Ever since I met this man, I feel that my life was never the same….I feel that I am drowning in pain and with lots of anger. Since the beginning, I had other women involved in our marriage meaning he kept flirting and giving his number to them
I Think He’s A Sex Addict, But I Love Him
I think my husband is a Sex Addict, but the thing I have been struggling with the most is my “but I love him”. My husband and I have been together since I was 16. I’m now 32.
10 Things To Help Partners Of Sex Addicts Deal With Holiday Stress
The Holiday Season is upon us and for Partners of Sex Addicts the stress can become unbearable. Here’s a few ideas to help you through
Is My Husband A Sex Addict Or An Entitled, Narcissistic Bastard?
Dear JoAnn, I would like to preface this by saying that I have yet to determine whether my husband is a sex addict with a
Christine’s Story – Engaged To A Sex Addict
I am engaged to a Sex Addict. I first met my fiancé January 21st, 2004. I was 17, and had been chatting with him for a few weeks on a popular teenage/college dating website.
Announcing the Association for Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists, The First Organization to Specialize in Training and Certification of Partner Specialists
A new professional organization was announced today at the Society for Advancement of Sexual Heath (SASH) national conference in San Antonio, Texas.
Boyfriend’s Sex Addiction Is Like Playing Emotional Ping Pong
l would like to share my story about my boyfriend’s Sex Addiction and get some feedback.
Do I Stay And Hope For The Best Or Say ‘Fuck It’ I’m Done?
I met my husband 9 years ago. We married almost 6 years ago. During our first years of marriage I would find printed out pictures of women.
Sex Addict Husband Refuses Help And Denies Problem
?I believe my husband may be a sex addict, but I may never know for sure. He refuses to talk to a counselor, or anyone for that matter. He completely isolates himself from other human beings…
Hurt And In Love-My Fiancé Has A Sex Addiction
Hi, I am 20 years old and in December of 2011 I found out my fiancé has a sex addiction.
I’m Scared To Embark On A Life Journey With A Sex Addict
For 15 years he has been struggling with this sex addiction. It started in college, when as a shy and immature boy he responded to an ad for a call girl that he found in the newspaper.
My Husband Is Addicted To Porn Of Morbidly Obese Women
Note from JoAnn: I have searched through my archives for stories that I have not posted. Some of these, such as this one, were sent
I Am Attracted To Someone I Believe Is A Sex Addict
Dear JoAnn, I’m not married nor going out with a s*x addict. But I am attracted to someone who I believe is a Sex Addict.
A Gay Man’s Story Of His Partner’s Sex Addiction
It was a little cathartic writing this. Thank you. We met in 1991. At first all we did was talk. I was just out of
I’m Still In The Shock Phase After Finding Out The Truth About My Husband-Allison’s Story
Thank you so much for your website. I’m only a few weeks into finding out the truth about my husband’s Sex Addiction, so I’m still
Even After Recovery The Wounds Remain
I’m so glad to have found this website. My story is about how my husband has successfully managed his recovery from Sex Addiction, but the deep wounds that his addiction caused still remain.
I have been married 8 years. Four years ago, my husband admitted to sleeping with prostitutes and strippers, as well as an enormous porn and sex chat addiction, during the first four years of our marriage, including during both of my pregnancies.
Guidelines For Using This Website
Often I get requests asking for advice or for me to provide e-mail addresses or phone numbers of other readers so that a personal connection can be made.
I understand that need for such a connection, as well as the need for a private, open forum for sharing, and that’s why I developed my o
I Need To Be Heard And I Need Help
To JoAnn, It’s so hard to not sob as I type this. I’m 24, married to a 34 year old sex addict. I don’t even
S’s Story, Don’t Ever Tolerate Their Behavior
JoAnn, I have attached my story. I was divorced June 27, 2011 because my ex filed for it. I was married for 12 years to
I Just Discovered That My Husband Of 22 Years Is A Sex Addict
I recently discovered that my husband of 22 years is a sex addict. It started with his “out of the blue” request for a divorce in Feb. of this year (unbenownst to me, he was in the middle of an acting out binge at the time).
Is Your Wife A Sex Addict?
Are you a man whose wife is a Sex Addict? You are not alone. Recently I have received so many e-mails from men who have discovered that their wives or partners are Sex Addicts
Are You Willing To Share Your Story On TV?
I have been contacted by a daytime television producer who is doing a show next week on porn addiction. The show would like to have
April’s Story: It Was On Our First Tour Of Duty That I Learned Of His Sex Addiction
It began with him closing down internet browsers and looking suspicious when I walked into the room, and I eventually found charges on our account for Adult Friend Finder. He would lie about his internet activity, blaming the charges on a “favor” he was doing for a buddy who didn’t have access to a credit card (really?), and the porn account was in said friends name (yeah right).
March’s Story of Lies, Deceit, Infidelity and Sex Addiction
Story of Lies, Deceit, Infidelity and Sex Addiction
Sexual Anorexia and Intimacy Anorexia
There has been a lot of discussion on the Sisterhood web site about the concepts of Sexual And Intimacy Anorexia. Many opinions have been voiced, so I thought I would bring that topic over here and see what some of you might have to say.
R’s Story Of Her Sex Addict Husband’s Sexting, Chat Rooms And Phone Sex
He is an avid sexter, telephone chat room visitor, and phone sex customer. We no longer have a computer of our own because I smashed it on the concrete patio one fine evening, but before that he frequented chat rooms there as well. I have good days and bad days.
It’s ‘Only’ Porn, It’s Not Really Cheating
I found that my husband has been participating in regular webcam sessions with performers that he pays to take their clothes off. I feel quite betrayed but he says that it’s totally meaningless, that I am overreacting and that it’s just a harmless outlet for him and that it is something that most guys do.
My Husband Admitted To Seeing Prostitutes
I was recently blindsided by my husbands sex addiction, so far admission of seeing to prostitutes.
Kara’s Story–My Boyfriend Is A Porn Addict
Dear JoAnn, I don’t even know where to begin. I met my boyfriend almost 12 years ago, soon after I had graduated high school. We
Jaded’s Story-Sex Addiction Will Steal Your Soul
I first found out about my husband’s Sex Addiction in 1987. My husband was going to individual therapy and told the therapist that he had been acting out sexually with hookers and porn.
A Story Of Hope
“He’s Catholic!” Those were the words that got me to go out on the first date with my to be husband. My mother set me up with him and to all he seemed perfect. Handsome, athletic, driven, smart and soon became my love and my best friend.
A Warning!
JoAnn, I noticed a comment on your blog you may not have noticed yet, about a new talk show in New York wanting to do
Need Advice On Intensives
Hi, JoAnn, I’m glad I found your site — thank you for sharing and for providing an opportunity for a safe community of partners of
It’s Worse Because I Tried To Do the Right Thing
I feel so horrible for all the pain I have read about in these posts!! It breaks my heart so much that other women are
Hannah’s Story-Please Post My Story-I Need Advice
that was the first time i realized he was watching porn behind my back. i was heartbroken. i was so so hurt. i cried all night and begged him to hug me for comfort. he didn’t say sorry, in fact he didn’t say anything.
Have Feelings For Friend Who Is A Recovering Sex Addict
I recently (1 month ago) started to get to know a guy from my church through mutual friends. We really hit it off and would talk for hours and hours.
Porn Is Just A Typo Away
Here’s why everyone should monitor their children’s internet activity.
Heartbroke–I’m Too Young For This (My Husband’s Sex Addiction)
I found out what type he likes to look at. It was me! Girls who look almost exactly like me. I am VERY young looking for my age, which put his viewing habits at illegal.
Laya’s Story–Should I Force Him To Deal With His Past Trauma?
My husband and I have been together for 5 years and married for just under a year, and I love him very, very much. In addition to a potential sex addiction, our relationship hasn’t been easy.
Lisa’s Story–Will Things Ever Change Or Should I Just Move On?
It wasn’t until May 2010 I started questioning his loyalty. I had previously caught him talking with a woman…
Share Your Story
Sharing our stories is good therapy. Women do this well; we laugh, we cry, we talk, pace, gesture and pull our hair out. We throw
Dr. Magness On Treatment Of Sex Addicts And Their Traumatized Partners
I received this e-mail yesterday from Dr. Magness asking me to add his link and interview to the Married To A Sex Addict site. I have put his interview at the end of this post for your review.
Katie’s Story: He Was The Kind Of Guy That Would Never Hurt Me Or Cheat
I learned that he had been going on Craigslist to communicate and exchange pictures with people, including members of the same sex which confused and devastated me. There were conversations about meeting up over lunch to engage in sexual acts.I learned that he had been going on Craigslist to communicate and exchange pictures with people, including members of the same sex which confused and devastated me. There were conversations about meeting up over lunch to engage in sexual acts.
Sorry About The Downtime
Some of you may have noticed that the site was down yesterday
Hopelessly Miserable-He Has Sex With Random Women And Refuses To Get Tested For STDs
Turns out…BINGO! I was pregnant. He was living in Alaska, and me in Chicago
Pat’s Story–I Have Come To The Realization That My Husband Is A Sex Addict
My story is so similar to the ones I have read on your site. I have been with my husband for 20 years, and have two teenage children. My first discovery of any infidelity was in 2006.
A Wolf In Sheep’s Clothing–Maria’s Story Of Sexually Addicted Husband
Normally, I would not speak to strangers on the internet; I have always been leery of the web. However, it seemed innocent enough to have a friendly chat with a guy who lived back on the East Coast
Go Forth And Chat (check comments for my updates)
So, go to my new site, Sisterhood Of Support and register. At this time registration is free. Please put in the same e-mail address that you use for this site, as that is how I will verify that you are not some nutcase out there. Anyone I don’t recognize will be contacted by me, and if they are not one of us, they will be banned from the site.
New Boundaries
So, I must request that you use the new site for topics that are not directly related to the original story or article that is published here.
New Site Glitches
I am exhausted. I’ve been up since 4am working on code, and no one ever told me until tonight that when you signed in you
Nurturing A Sex Addict Has Negative Results
Nurturing can also occur when a partner readily accepts and believes their partners flimsy explanations, denials and promises by ignoring their own concerns or blaming themselves for the relationship problems.
Laura’s Story–My Husband Is Addicted To Strippers And Hookers
I am 50 years old and Michael is 44. We met on line over six years ago. He told me in an email that he was a sex addict.
Just For You
new website offers a comprehensive blog with articles written by me and others who have expertise in various issues; forums, groups, live chat, profile sharing, connections through a member directory and profile directory, free individual blog set up and hosting, research, interviews, discounts on all eBooks and educational materials, live online meetings with me twice a month, and much, much more.
Jill’s Story–We Were On the Right Path Then He Spit It All In My Face
I discovered that my husband was a SA in Aug 09 and like all the others he cried and begged me to give him a chance.
Sally’s Story And Boundaries For Her Sexually Addicted Husband
I found your website a couple of days ago and am so glad I found it. I just found out about my husband’s secret earlier this week.
Holiday Stress
Being in a relationship with a Sex Addict puts us into an almost constant state of stress. Add in the holidays and we feel as
Miss C’s Story: How I Made My Decision To Divorce My Sex Addict Husband
I am 40 years old, recently divorced from the Sex Addict in my life, disguised as my husband.
Musings From JoAnn
So, I have spent the last few days reading over the most recent comments and I will summarize some of my thoughts here. Please forgive me if I miss something, but I’ll try to make my thoughts as general as possible in order to cover most topics.
An Honest Wife’s Story–Who’s Fooling Who?
In the back of my mind, I don’t want him anymore. I don’t. In the back of my mind he is damaged goods, someone passed around and discarded by hundreds of women.
For A While Life Was Good–A.L.’s Marriage To A Sex Addict
I thank God for you and for your website! I am brand new to this entire experience and right now, I think I’m still in shock. I’ve inhaled almost every woman’s story on this site to find answers to a problem I now know is Sex Addict.
Our Happy Little Corner
Introducing a new page for wives of Sex Addicts to share their good things.
A Military Wife’s Story: I Am So Ashamed And Humiliated
This is such a humbling experience for me to admit that my husband is a Sex Addict and I have stayed in such a relationship
I Knew About My Husband’s Sex Addiction When I Married Him–Ann’s Story
Unlike many women who visit your site I knew about my husbands sex addiction when I married him. He is not only a sex addict but a convicted felon and registered sex offender who spent 10 years in the penal system
The ‘Bad’ Wife
My husband just recently admitted to being a sex addict. As to what extent I only know that he was watching porn on the internet and always wanted to have sex with me all the time or he would get very angry and would take it out on me!
KJ Needs Help
My husband, whom I just found out is a Sex Addict, deployed to Afghanistan in the middle of all of the chaos so I am alone and will be until Sept of 2011…..and just when I thought things couldn’t get any worse they did
A Sex Addict’s Brain: A Swirling Mass Of Chemical Soup
Here are links to a few articles that I wrote a while back that I think will help some of you understand the chemical imbalances that occur in Sex Addicts.
Anne’s Story: He Never Tried To Save Our Marriage, All He Wanted Was Porn
Inevitably one night I came out and took him by surprise. He was on the computer and had several porn sites open. I was floored, speechless, and so hurt.
It’s Time To Redecorate The Web Site–Give Me Your Input
When I started this site two years ago I had no idea where this simple web site called Married To A Sex Addict would go or what it would become. We have grown from just a handful of visitors each month to over five thousand unique visitors per month,
Sharing A Smile
I have been doing a lot of research on Personality Disorders and I ran across this anonymous quote. It made me laugh, so I thought I would share it with all of you who I know can relate.
K.M.’s Story: A Shy, Gentle Woman Married To A Sexually Addicted Pedophile
She had told her grandma that he had gotten a tattoo out of the McDonalds box and had her sit on the couch and tried to get her to touch his penis.
Starry’s Story: I Still Feel Shame and Embarrassment About His Activities
I found evidence on the PC that he was using a chat program, been viewing porn, and sending explicit email to another man.
More From JoAnn: Why Do I Stay With A Sex Addict?
I appreciate the voices who have asked the question, and I also hear those of you who did not ask, but still wondered–Why Do I Stay With A Sex Addict?
JoAnn’s Update: Sex Addiction’s Struggles
The odd thing about our stories is that there is never an ending. The stories of Sex Addiction are ongoing, a continuance of the peaks and valley, the happiness and pain and, of course, the struggles.