Barbara Steffens, author of 'Your Sexually Addicted Spouse, How Partners Can Cope And Heal' shares her years of experience as a professional counselor specializing in the field of helping partners of Sex Addicts heal from their trauma.
The effects of living with a Sex Addict are subtle but deep, destructive to our sense of safety, emotionally devastating and life changing. As the relationship with a Sex Addict progresses our personalities change. We try to find normal ways to deal with an abnormal situation. Sex Addicts have two sides to their personalities and the deception over who they are, what they believe in and what they are doing presents an ever changing, contradictory picture that is impossible to make sense of.
If you choose to stay in a relationship with a Sex Addict, continue to have unprotected sex and are not monitoring their behavior you are betting your life that your Sex Addict partner or spouse will never stray again.