Probably the most controversial issue surrounding addictions of all types is recovery. Most recovery programs are based on the AA 12 step model. Statistics are difficult to decipher and recovery rates vary from 5% to almost 100%. The higher stats don’t take into account all the members who come to a few meetings and, for whatever reason, never return. Of course, those who stay will claim a 100% recovery rate.

Scientific data on the 12 step programs show that the recovery rate is almost exactly the same as no intervention at all, which will result in a spontaneous recovery of about 5% of addicts. It is unfortunate that the mindset of our society is that 12 Steps is the only way to go. Sex Addicts who are incarcerated are often forced to go to the meetings as a condition of their parole. Some claim that it can do no harm and that there is nothing better out there; but both of these assumptions are erroneous.

Forcing an addict to participate in a program that they don’t believe in only adds to the stress and shame that fuels the addiction. There are many other programs available that do not espouse the 12 step philosophy or the disease model.

One of the programs that aligns with my philosophy about Sex Addiction is the SMART Recovery program which offers addicts the tools to change their lives for the better. Contrary to the 12 step programs that claim that addiction is a disease which can never be cured and that the addict must give up control of their lives to a higher power–stating that they are powerless over the addiction, programs like SMART empower the addict to take control of their lives, take accountability for their actions and make healthy changes in their lives.

In later posts I will detail which recovery methods we tried and which ones worked and which ones didn’t. Please join and tell us what worked for you.

  • Which methods did you try?
  • What did you like and dislike about them?
  • Where are you now in your recovery?

Peace and love to all.

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. ~Winston Churchill~