The book is coming along nicely and yesterday I was working on a section about Discovery–how and when we find out that our spouse or partner is a Sex Addict.
I can remember the day I found out as if it were yesterday. It was a Thursday and I was off work. While sorting through the stack of mail from the previous few days I noticed that a bank statement that I had seen come in was missing.
That’s the day I found the bank statements hidden in the back of my husband’s desk drawer. Statements that showed frequent withdrawals adding up to over a thousand dollars a month, every month for almost two years.
I didn’t confront my husband until Sunday, and of course, he lied; making up stories about buying stuff for the office and just needing extra cash. After a full day of questioning, yelling, begging and pleading he finally admitted to seeing ‘a prostitute’. It took over three years to get the rest of the story in bits and pieces.
How we find out is as varied as our personalities. Some women are married to active Sex Addicts for decades before they find out, others, like me, find out early in the relationship.
How did you find out?
Please share your story about how you discovered that you were involved with a Sex Addict. Thanks.
Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow. ~ Swedish Proverb