I just have such anger over the way a lot of the 12 step groups are run. These meetings are only as good as their members, and, unfortunately, many of the members simply use the meetings as a cover for their acting out. As long as they tell their wives and partners that they are 'going to my meetings every week' and 'you need to let me work my program myself (hear--stay out of my business)' then the 'little woman' has nothing to complain about. Right? It's just such an issue of deceit and control it makes me want to puke!