Written by My husband and I just returned from a Caribbean cruise. I knew the environment would have challenges for him, but I was pleasantly surprised as he really did well. The pool area provided unlimited eye candy with many young things wearing not much more than three postage stamps. Fortunately I am in a place now where I know that if he slips back into his old ways I will be able to recognize it immediately, … Continue reading “Holiday”
When you find out that your spouse or partner is a Sex Addict a piece of you dies. You lose your sense of reality and equilibrium, your self esteem, your lifestyle, your hope and your trust. It’s as if everything you believed in and everything that existed has suddenly been shattered. The world you thought was real disappears, leaving behind a dark and ugly landscape strewn with lies and deception. The person you love is … Continue reading “Grieving Your Losses Part 1”
Why can’t they just tell me everything and get it over with? That is probably the most painful cry of spouses and partners of Sex Addicts. We get information in bits and pieces, or as one woman put it, ‘on the installment plan’. Even when confronted with black and white evidence Sex Addicts just can’t seem to admit what they have done. Even though we beg them for the whole story we only get a … Continue reading “Staggered Disclosures”
From my journal: It always comes down to this when dealing with a Sex Addict. It’s not about what they do, although that is vitally important, it’s more about what they say. It’s always about the lies. The lies will get you every time. The lies will cause the doubts. The lies will crumble the foundation of your relationship and it’s the lies that will destroy the trust. Picture this scenario: He casually mentions having … Continue reading “It’s Always About The Lies”
Hello everyone! Welcome to my new blog. My name is JoAnn and I am married to a Sex Addict. Needless to say, the last four years, and the two years before my marriage, have been stressful, painful, disruptive and emotionally devastating. But, amid the chaos there also came a sense of growth, understanding and knowledge. When I found out that my husband of three and a half months had a thousand dollar a month prostitute … Continue reading “A New Book For Spouses Of Sex Addicts”