I’ve seen it happen so many times. A Sex Addiction is discovered. There are tears and screams, anger, pain, threats and lots of smoke and mirrors. After the dust settles you have conversations–lots of them, some good, most of them bad, but it helps clear the air. Then you are both spent, emotionally drained. That’s when it happens. And it happens early, usually within the first few weeks or maybe even a few months of
Our path to recovery starts with discovery. The ways that each of us find out about our spouse’s Sexual Addiction are as varied as the types of addiction. Some of us are jolted into painful reality with a phone call from the local jail, the other woman or man, or just by having to face the overwhelming evidence that we have been trying to ignore. Rarely, our spouse may have become so distressed with their
I bet most people would think that having sex with a Sex Addict must be one step short of Paradise. I mean, after all, they are the experts–right?
It is official, Tiger Woods has entered rehab for his so called Sex Addiction. Does this sound like someone who is humbled by recognition of his disease and is ready to give his all to recovery?
I bet you’ve never read a news story about a celebrity confessing to their infidelities out of the blue.
Whether it’s prostitutes, porn or a mistress or two on the side, sex costs money.
I have found so much comfort in sharing my story with others as well as listening to and reading about the experiences of others who are dealing with loving and living with a Sex Addict. Please share your story here.
Do wives and partners of Sex Addicts experience trauma severe enough to cause Trauma Bonds?
I just came across a fairly accurate description of what happens in an inpatient Sex Addiction rehab facility, and rather than trying to rephrase and rewrite it in my own words,
New York, Feb 11 : The proposed changes in the American Psychiatric Association’s diagnostic manual surprisingly do not include sex addiction, obesity and Internet addiction. But binge eating and gambling have been given a place.
Forgiving your Sex Addict spouse or partner does not mean that they are no longer responsible for their actions, nor does forgiveness mean that you accept their behavior. Forgiveness is not the same as a ‘pardon’, which means to release from punishment. Forgiveness means you let go of the anger and resentment that drains your soul of any sense of peace
I have always said that the Sex Addict is an abuser. This emotional abuse produces the same effect on spouses and partners of Sex Addicts that I saw over and over in victims of domestic violence.
Today I was looking through my journals (all electronic files on the computer), e-mails and chats that were written before and during my marriage to my Sex Addict husband. Time does give us a different perspective on things. Even last year I would get depressed whenever I read those files. All the pain and anger would come rushing back as if it were happening right then. Now, with almost three years of complete sobriety under
If you choose to stay in a relationship with a Sex Addict, continue to have unprotected sex and are not monitoring their behavior you are betting your life that your Sex Addict partner or spouse will never stray again.
Can Sex Addict husband ever change? Mine did.
How many times have you bought a book but only needed the information in one or two chapters? The Married To A Sex Addict Survival Series allows you to choose the topics that you need when you need them. The Survival Series focuses on specific issues that affect those of us who are casualties of Sex Addiction, and addresses these issues specifically toward someone who is involved with a Sex Addict.
Does Married To A Sex Addict need a forum page?
One of the most difficult aspects of Sex Addiction that we
spouses and partners have to deal with is How do I ever learn to
trust him again? Maybe a better question is–should we ever trust
them again?
Denial is denying our own intuition, ignoring our gut feelings. It is blatantly overlooking what is right in front of us. As we begin to doubt ourselves the rationalizations of the Sex Addict actually start to make sense to us.
I have seen a troubling trend, especially within the scientific community. That trend is the labeling of those involved with a Sex Addict, or any addict for that matter, as a co-addict. Because counselors and Sex Addiction treatment centers look toward the scientific community for guidance I expect to soon see the term co-addict routinely used to indicate someone who is in a relationship with a Sex Addict.