Listen as JoAnn Russell interviews Barbara Steffens, author of ‘Your Sexually Addicted Spouse, How Partners Can Cope And Heal’ in Part 2 of this four part series of interviews. In Part 2 Barbara discusses the ‘life quake’ of discovery of the Sexual Addiction, disclosures, honesty, trust and boundaries.
This wife cannot leave her sexually addicted husband.
I’ve gotten a little behind on posting Q&A section, so I thought I would put some of the questions, along with my answers, here so that each of you could respond if you wish. Here is a question from a reader called Rosy:
I like to think of Passive Aggressive behaviors as ‘polite hostility’. They say one thing while meaning another, and they ‘kind of’ want you to know what they really mean, but can’t face the repercussions. So, they leave you there, scratching your head trying to figure out their mixed signals. It can really make you crazy!
Here is Part Three of the four part series of interviews with Barbara Steffens. If you liked parts one and two, I’m sure you will enjoy this session. In Part Three Barbara discusses what effects stress and trauma have on our bodies and our minds, and what types of treatments are available.
Part four of a four part series of interviews with Barbara Steffens, author of Your Sexually Addicted Spouse, How Partners Can Cope And Heal
The dangers of Sex Addiction for the addict are everywhere, Internet, craigslist, glory-holes, porn stores, female friends, male friends, bathrooms, libraries, wherever.
I have known far too many women who were not only devastated by the discovery of their spouse or partner’s Sexual Addiction, but they also had to face the horrible reality of finding out that their financial situation was in ruins.
Sometimes letters from my readers really touch my soul. I get many private e-mails through the ‘Contact’ page, which I always answer.
Sometimes one will really take me back. Here is my answer to one of those that talked about finding out those devastating facts while monitoring her husband’s computer.
my boyfriend is a sex addict-he stole my 21 year old daughters memory card and printed her pictures out and i found them in his lunch box
My story started in January, when I accidentally found out my husband of 24 years was having an affair. I started digging and found out he had been having sex, some of it pretty kinky, with as many as 20 women for the past 5 years.
Pregnant wife with young child seeks help with Sexually Addicted husband.
Have you ever heard someone say ‘I’ll try’? For years, and, even occasionally now, I heard those dreaded words from my Sexually Addicted husband. Just what does ‘I’ll try’ mean?
It was less than two months since D-day. My spouse had begun to attend SA meetings. He was quite light-hearted these days, feeling proud of his first step toward sobriety. I was also proud of him, and very affirming whenever possible.
But strange things were happening—new strange things.
The Oprah Winfrey Network (OWN), which will take over the Discovery Health Channel in January, wants couples who would be willing to go public (like on TV–with no anonymity, blocked out faces or distorted voices ) and share their stories of infidelity.
Glamour Magazine is planning an article on what it is like to be married to a Sex Addict. They require that the spouse be between the ages of 25 and 35 (that leaves
I’m interested in hearing from others if anyone’s spouse attended workshops or in patient treatment at the Meadows or any center. A quick search of your site didn’t turn up anything on it but I’m not sure I have the format down well enough and may have missed it.
Can you direct me to any threads where this was discussed or start one asking if anyone has feedback on any institutions or experience with a
The light bulb went off when I finally realized that just because I loved him didn’t mean that I had to stay with him. I could keep my love. Keep the good things. Keep the memories that I chose to keep even if they were now tainted with deceit. I could make those choices. That love was my precious emotion, mine to do with as I pleased. Loving someone does not mean you have to
Diane mentioned this song in her last comment. I thought I would share this beautiful song by Mark Cohn with all of you. It made me cry.
I hate that I’ve had to find this site but I’m so very happy that it exists. This is so very new to me that I still can’t believe it has happened. I keep hoping to wake up from this nightmare. I exposed the disgusting secret that my husband was trying to keep from me just a few weeks ago.
I just have such anger over the way a lot of the 12 step groups are run. These meetings are only as good as their members, and, unfortunately, many of the members simply use the meetings as a cover for their acting out. As long as they tell their wives and partners that they are ‘going to my meetings every week’ and ‘you need to let me work my program myself (hear–stay out of my